Understanding Codependency
What Is Codependency?
Codependency is a pattern of behaviour in which individuals prioritise the needs, feelings, and well-being of others over their own. This can lead to difficulties with self-identity, boundaries, and emotional well-being. Often, codependency stems from early relational experiences, trauma, or growing up in environments where emotional needs were neglected.
In my practice, I offer compassionate, evidence-based therapy to support individuals navigating codependent patterns and working toward healthier, more balanced relationships.
Recognising Codependency
People who struggle with codependency often experience:
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Difficulty setting or maintaining boundaries.
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A strong need for external validation or approval.
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Fear of abandonment or rejection.
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Low self-esteem and a diminished sense of self.
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Feeling responsible for others' emotions or well-being.
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Challenges with decision-making, especially when prioritising others' needs.
How Therapy Can Help
Therapy provides a safe space to explore the roots of codependent patterns and develop healthier relationship dynamics. Through our work together, we can:
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Build self-awareness and self-compassion.
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Develop skills for setting and maintaining boundaries.
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Understand the origins of codependent behaviours, often linked to early relational experiences.
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Foster greater independence and self-trust, so you feel more confident expressing your needs.
My Therapeutic Approach
I use an integrative, relational approach to support clients struggling with codependency. This includes techniques such as:
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) to process past relational traumas.
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Mindfulness and Hypnotherapy to foster present-moment awareness and reduce anxiety.
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Attachment-Informed Psychotherapy and Counselling to explore early relational patterns and their impact on current relationships.
Throughout our work, I maintain an empathetic and compassionate stance while offering appropriate challenges to support your growth. I place importance on repairing any therapeutic ruptures if they occur, ensuring that trust and safety remain at the core of our therapeutic relationship. Therapy is offered on a case-by-case basis, with clients needing to be in a stable condition to engage effectively in relational work. Collaboration with GPs and psychiatrists is available when needed to ensure a holistic and comprehensive approach to your care.
Next Steps
If codependent patterns are impacting your relationships or sense of self, therapy can help. I offer a free 15-minute consultation to discuss your needs and explore how we might work together.
Helpful Resources:
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Codependents Anonymous: www.coda.org
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Mind: www.mind.org.uk
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NHS Mental Health Services: www.nhs.uk
Change is possible, and you don’t have to navigate it alone.